Sexual abusers will also try to keep their action secret, and unless the victim is bold enough to tell someone about it, it can be hidden for a lifetime. Adult, children, male and female are often scared and embarrassed to tell anyone about the abuse, so in many cases of abuse are not reported.
Such abusers cannot or will not relate to other people as people, choosing instead to treat them as objects. In effect, they confuse people for things. They treat people as though they were there solely for their convenience.

Sexual Misconduct - The Abuser

Discovering that a convicted sex offender is living in your neighborhood can stir a range of feelings - fear, anger, lack of safety, loss of control. Don't panic! Sometimes, just having more information can diminish those feelings. There really are many things you can do to make the situation more manageable. Remind yourself and your neighbors that it's in everyone's best interest that this person succeeds in becoming a safe member of your community. Truth is, they probably want to succeed as well. Join with others to learn the best actions to take to keep everyone safe.
Abusers are usually men, but can also be females and even minors, who usually know their victim. This makes it even sadder because we usually have a lot of respect and trust for people we come to be acquainted with. The majority of abusers are family member, neighbors, clergy, and teacher, the minority are strangers.
Abusers learned to abuse as a consequence having an empathy deficiency. The cause can be from abuse they experienced as children that buried their empathic abilities and never developed proper reasoning of right/wrong and ethical values, thus the abuse is the normal for them, conditioned from the start of their life. They are familiar with and fully understand being the helpless victim.

What causes a person to abuse?

Something to Think About . . .

Abusive behavior can also result from antisocial disorder. For example, someone with anger management issues, drinking, or drug problem that easily gets out of control. Other abusers suffer from mental health issues such as depression, isolation, loneliness, friendless, and they may also have anger or impulse control issues. Such people may abuse because of the benefits they receive from doing so, for instance, sexual or financial gratification, or the simple allure of power over other people's lives.